Speak your truth – but be kind

Our words have the power to sever or serve relationships. 
Read that again.

Do you remember the saying, “I’m rubber, you’re glue, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you?” 

Yet, we, as emotional and spiritual beings, are not rubber.  Words hurt, and for this reason, I would like to encourage you, that whilst you speak your truth, do so in kindness. 

Parents have, or will, hear the words “You’re mean” at one point in their children’s lives, yet we are able to forgive them.  Why?  I truly believe it’s because we understand they don’t have the emotional intelligence to know what they are saying or the consequences of their words.  This forgiveness doesn’t mean their words don’t hurt; it just means we understand. Sadly this only applies to children. 

Power of words
Why is it so difficult to remember the compliments and good things said about us, but so easy to remember the hurtful ones?  I believe the answer is different for every person, so it’s your responsibility as you chart your course, to figure this out and manifest the habit of nurturing the compliments and starving the negativity.

Words can build up or tear down. They can motivate or discourage.
Words influence others and build relationships at work and personally. They can tear down relationships. Simply put, language holds massive power to manifest change, whether it’s good or bad. 

Choose the words that you speak very carefully because they have the potential of accomplishing nearly anything or destroying nearly anything. Just one negative comment can ruin a person’s day. A few might even ruin the person’s life. On the flip side, one positive and encouraging comment can be just enough to increase employee engagement, create healthier cultures and make more of a difference in an individual’s life than you will ever know.

The way you speak reflects the person you are and impacts everything around you. It can greatly contribute to your success in business and your personal life.

I always think that you’ve got to say ten nice things to counteract one unkind statement.
So, let’s start a movement where we only say the 10 nice things.  And if we need to discuss a negative behaviour or action, frame it in a constructive manner filled with love.  You will see more change in the other persons behaviour than if you just attack.

The law of attraction
We’ve been told repeatedly that we attract what we put into the universe, this is true, but I think there is another way to look at this too.

What if you are kind and you attract mean?
What if you are honest and you attract liars?
What if you are loyal and you attract disloyalty?
What if you are conscious and authentic and you attract fake and manipulating?
You don’t always attract what you are, you attract people who are in desperate need of what you are.

These people come onto your path for a reason and they are going to leave with the deep knowing that they need to step up their game if they want a piece of your kindness.

Mahatma Gandhi said “an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind”

How you respond when people treat you badly has everything to do with taking care of yourself and keeping your self-respect and power.

In every instance, don’t try to get even, use your power and self-worth, be confident in your worth as a beautiful human being.

Let the healing begin!

We have some very exciting news, following my JUNE newsletter where I told you about my journey with the BWRT® therapy, have I met with a BWRT® therapist who is going to be working from Woodlands, using the renowned therapy that changed my life to bring that same healing to our guests here at Woodlands.

She will be running a “opening discount” for August of R350 per session (60-90min)
Her usual rate of R450 per session will then be applicable from September 2019.

BWRT® works in what is called the ‘cognitive gap’ that exists between the moment the brain responds to a stimulus and our conscious awareness of the response to that trigger – discovered by the scientist Benjamin Libet in 1983. This gap explains why we cannot, for example, decide not to have a panic attack (or other negative reaction) – because, by the time we are consciously aware of what is happening, the response is already underway. BWRT® enables clients to modify their response to one that they would prefer to have.

Bookings can be made directly with her.
Siobhán Clarke 
hello@mana-o.co.za
062 455 8353

Women’s Day on the 9th needs no introduction, I think I have covered every aspect of that in all my previous Women’s Day newsletters. We are however running a fabulous August Promotion in aid of Women’s Month, be sure to spoil those incredible women in your life, or yourself – you deserve it!

Our Winter Warmer promotion is also still running. Take advantage now, as this incredible offer of 25% off on weekdays will only run till the end of August 2019. 

I will leave you with the following:

It’s easy to be unkind. Compassion takes strength. In the end, when your heart has gifted its final beat and your bones are returned to dust, the ones you leave behind won’t be commending your job, your house, or your bank account; they will reflect on how you made them feel. How well you loved. Make kindness your legacy. 

With love & kindness
Tania