It’s time to wash away the walls of self-doubt.

Summer means beautiful, quenching, life-giving rain. Where, after the first rain, we start to see just how nature thrives, the season of just surviving is over. So, how do we translate that into our own lives?

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to succeed in all areas of life, with a dream job, cool friends, a loving family, and a flourishing side hustle? According to new research, there is actually something that sets “thrivers” apart from others who are going through life just trying to survive.

The secret, I believe, is mindset and having the right personality traits. Everything you will ever need to be happy and successful is within you. No one was magically born with all of these qualities. While some of us may be predisposed to be better at some things than others, that should not deter us from striving to be better at each of these skills.

People who feel good about life and themselves, whilst being good at something (anything), are more likely to hit that “thriving” threshold.

It appears to come down to an individual experiencing a sense of development, improving a skill, and eventually mastering it.

The beauty of personality traits is that you can teach yourself to think and act any way you want. Unlike physical strength, there are no limits to how well you can train your mind.

This shows that, although life success isn’t 100 percent controllable, we are able to shape our worlds purely by our outlook, as opposed to bemoaning the cards with which you find yourself.

To be successful you have to:

• Believe that you can do whatever you are trying to do.
• Be able to picture yourself achieving it.
• Be able to feel it, to touch it. You will never accomplish in life that which you do not think you are capable of.

You also have to believe in yourself even when no one else does. Many entrepreneurs have been through periods of time when a lot of people thought they might be crazy or making a wrong move. It is critical that you have the confidence in yourself to withstand all of the critics and naysayers you will encounter on your journey. These critics and naysayers will only multiply over time as you gain more and more success.

Success is silent, whilst arrogance is loud.

Confidence is to be differentiated from arrogance. True confidence does not need to be spoken. If you have to tell people you are good at something then that feeling is coming from a place of insecurity and not genuine confidence in yourself.

A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset. When you wake up, spare a thought about what a privilege it is to simply be alive. The moment you start acting like life is a blessing, I assure you it will start to feel like one. May you have a beautiful October and spend time living a life worth appreciating.

Love, Tania